5 REASONS TO BREAK UP- WHEN A BREAK UP IS JUSTIFIED

5 REASONS TO BREAK UP-
WHEN A BREAK UP IS JUSTIFIED

Breakups are messy, painful and come with lots of heartaches: many people have landed in the grave after a break up (yes, it can kill), many have become broken and scared for life while the weak-hearted ones have lost their sanity after a breakup. Can there be a reason to inflict such pain on an individual? When can and should you break up that relationship? You can do it when:

YOU ARE BEING ABUSED

Some women are being beaten by the man they love and have become a living corpse as a result, some suffered psychological abuse and have lost their self-esteem and live in a shell. In many cases both the abuser and the abused love each other deeply but because one of them needs psychological, spiritual or material help the other person has to suffer. When you are being abused, leaving is justified because your life and sanity is at stake. Even if your abuser threatens to commit suicide you have to save yourself first before you can save another.

YOU NO LONGER LOVE YOUR PARTNER

Don’t ever stay in a relationship out of pity. If you are convinced you don’t love your partner anymore or you have fallen hard for another then leaving is justified. People might call you a jerk or a terrible person but it is better than being deceitful or turning into a cheat. If there is no hope of bringing back love, respect and trust in your relationship then you will be doing your partner a lot of good by leaving. Your partner may not appreciate it now but he or she will see it as a blessing in disguise later in life. You can read my article on how to break up right.

WHEN IT DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT

You are in a relationship and both of you love each other but there is no peace in your heart if it doesn’t feel right maybe it isn't. If you have done something bad like betraying someone to get into that relationship, telling lies to get accepted or dating a relative(incest) you won’t have peace even if both of you love each other deeply. Love alone cannot keep two people together, you have no right to deceive or break other people’s heart in order to mend yours. Peace and sleep will always elude you; breaking up is justified.

WHEN YOU OR YOUR PARTNER CHEATED

No matter how much your partner beg and cry if you have proof that he or she has cheated on you then breaking up is justified. Your partner has no right to hold on to two or more women or men at a time unless he or she plans to marry both. Trust is important in a relationship and if any of you have broken it the offender should take responsibility. If you have cheated on your partner and he or she finds out you should break up if your partner request for it. You can’t eat your cake and have it.

WHEN ONE OF YOU IS MARRIED TO ANOTHER

It is called extramarital affairs or infidelity and both of you have no right to be together, in fact, you should break up now. Being with someone that is married to another is very wrong: you can’t get married and the relationship is doomed from the start. If he or she ended up leaving his or her spouse for you be prepare to suffer the same fate too. Where is your conscience? No reason is good enough to date a married man.